Ever since college friends started marrying en masse, turning me into a biddy by age 21, I've been getting the same self-righteous and very bad advice from what Helen Fielding's Bridget Jones so aptly named "Smug Marrieds."
"Once you become content with God alone, then God will send you a husband."
Loosely translated: We married folk clearly have it together and are vastly more righteous and godly than you singletons. We're not saying that it's your fault, just that there must be something intrinsically wrong with your relationship with God if He has not yet blessed you with a mate. Stop having any desires beyond salvation and one day when you are perfectly serene and content, you will have earned a spouse from God. Like us!
These are Job's friends with bridal registries. I have always known this sentiment for the total crap that it is. But now, NOW I have been proved right by no less than Moses himself!
Thanks to Donald Miller's book, Searching for God Knows What, I started reading the first few chapters of Genesis. Of course I've read these before, but this time I saw something I hadn't seen before.
Adam was lonely.
And what did God say? Did He say, "Adam, you ungrateful so and so! I gave you paradise, dominion, even let you name the animals for goodness sake! AND I walk around and personally hang out with you and love you perfectly! And you want more! Where is your contentedness? I hereby smite you!"
No, He did not. God said, "It is not good for man to be alone." And He made him a wife.
Ha! The perfect man with the perfect, direct relationship with God still needed someone else. And God agreed. Vindication is mine! Take that Smug Marrieds!
Yes, I'm still single and I don't know why. But at least I have some heavyweights on my side against the argument that it's due to my low level of contentedness.
Many thanks to Donald Miller, Moses, and God Almighty, without whom I am just an opinionated 28 year-old biddy whose greed for more would surely never win her a husband.