I've become a teensy bit addicted to the Weddings and Events section of Pinterest. Let us not speak of when this began, but know that it has certainly intensified since we began actually planning the wedding.
And I've found some really useful stuff there. Links to cheap vases you can buy in bulk. Flower and centerpiece ideas. A link to a Martha Stewart article that included the idea of using luminarias as decoration, which I would likely never have thought of on my own, despite the fact that they are huge in New Mexico (Raj's homeland) at Christmastime (the time of year we're getting married). Genius.
My very best find, courtesy of Pinterest, was the website A Practical Wedding, which I can just not recommend highly enough. Their tagline is: "weddings. minus the insanity, plus the marriage." Which is pretty much exactly what we're going for. A message they emphasize that works well for me is: don't let the Wedding Industrial Complex make you believe you MUST have/do/buy something you don't care about. For instance, I couldn't care less about having special toasting flutes for Raj and me. He doesn't care either, so we'll use the same champagne glasses everyone else does. Check that item off the list. I also love their Wedding Graduates posts, where women (mostly) share what they learned from their own weddings.
But of course not everything on Pinterest Weddings is so in keeping with my own personal taste. For instance, we will not be having any burlap, mustaches on sticks, or sand ceremony. There will be no mason jars. (I know, right? Am I sure we'll even be legally married?!?) I will not be wearing jewel-encrusted Christian Loubitin platform peep-toe heels. There will be NO CHALKBOARD PAINT WHATSOEVER. Also nothing heart-shaped because that is just not who we are. And no damask or toile because Raj hates them. Which is fine.
In general, I think people should do what they want for their weddings. Lots of people want mason jars and/or jewel-encrusted Christian Loubitin peep-toe platform heels to be part of their wedding and they should go ahead and have them. But I cannot support all bridal decisions so whole-heartedly. Which brings us to the following screed.
WOMEN OF PINTEREST:
That thing you want to decorate is the altar with two A's. Alter with an E is what you will do to your dress.
Please stop referring to your save the dates as your STDs. Ew.
Please, please, please stop referring to your bridesmaids as your BMs. Do you know what BM typically stands for? It's not pretty.
And really don't refer to them as or make them wear a bedazzed tank top calling them Brides Bitches. Or call them your 'maids. If you want bitches or maids, go to prison or a hotel.
And don't make them wear anything that makes them look like Bo Peep or a prostitute.
Also, that BRIDE track suit you want is good for, like, a day. Then what are you going to do with it?
Really, a unifying hair theme? (This one was braids. They'd all have braid-intensive hair. To unify.)
When you say PB, I think peanut butter, not Pottery Barn. So those PB filled votive candle holders sound not very flammable, but tasty.
Ok, fine this represents a matter of taste, but I find these deeply upsetting for reasons I do not fully understand. Maybe because they're pictured with a French pedicure, which I've always found similarly inexplicably creepy.
And finally, ladies, there's a lot of talk about MY wedding happening. Unless and until they change the law, you actually need two people for a wedding. So maybe at least pretend to think of it as OUR wedding. I'm speaking here to the gals planning actual and not hypothetical weddings on Pinterest. Sure, those of you thinking about a far off day with a mystery groom don't have to change the pronoun just yet.
In case you want to see, follow, or harshly judge my own pins, my Pinterest user name is Superfantastic. Naturally.